Guys and Respect

So, I was talkin’ to one of my best guy friends n’ he was askin’ me for advice with his relationship. He told me how much pressure he feels sometimes about not screwing up so he doesn’t look like a jerk and all he really wants is to keep his girlfriend happy but no matter what he does or how hard he tries, she always gets upset with him for even the littlest things. So all his hard work basically goes to waste.

That just made me feel even worse about being a girl. Now, most guys think girls hate them just because they’re guys and there’s this horrible rep set up for them, like all guys are made to hurt girls. But I think guys get less credit n’ respect than they deserve. A lot of girls don’t see what they’re doing to their boyfriend. They think that just because he’s a guy, he’s automatically the one to blame. Now I think that shit’s unfair. Okay, yeah I’m guilty for once hating on guys and saying disrespectful things about them too. But I’ve realized that while girls are over here gettin’ all this sympathy for being heart broken, guys have it so much worse. They have to put up this big front, pretending they’re strong and nothing (fazes) them because that’s what guys are supposed to do. But girls, they got it easy. They can complain, they can bitch, they can cry. Cos’ that’s what girls are supposed to do.

But you know, not all guys are out there to hurt girls. Sometimes it’s the girl’s fault, she sets herself up. But the guy takes the blame for it because he’s the guy, in the eye of the public: he’s automatically the bad guy. Girls, you gotta cut guys some slack. Don’t get so butthurt over the little mistakes or the choices he makes like not knowing that “in 12 days” is your monthly anniversary or maybe wanting to hang out with his guy friends once in a while, or act tough infront of his crew instead of being lovey dovey with you like always, or playing COD instead of watching Mean Girls with you on a Sunday Morning. If you don’t wanna be let down, don’t expect so much from him. You’re lucky to have him. He’s there to protect you n’ support you. Guys can’t read minds and they don’t know everything, so don’t get mad when he orders take-out instead of cooking a 5 star meal for you two. Sometimes they need a heads up, they need help, insight, hints! And they try so hard, just for you. All a guy wants to do is keep his number one girl happy, at all times. You don’t think it hurts them when they know they made us cry ? Of course it does. N’ yeah, okay. Some guys are straight up jerks but it works like that for girls too you know, some girls are straight up bitches but it doesn’t classify the whole gender,remember that.

A relationship takes two people, two insights, and two minds trying to understand each other, it’s not all about you, respect that.

Source: thediamondkidd