Admitting to yourself that your relationship is over can be incredibly hard. The longer you are with someone, the more a part of you they become. Noticing signs of distance between the two of you and realizing that the love has long since been gone can both be startling discoveries. There could have been signs that you missed when the demise started. These are a few of the clues you may have missed and what you could possibly do to fix the issues if you believe your partnership is worth saving.
An active sex life is important when keeping your relationship together. If you aren't spending intimate time with your man at least a few times a month at the bare minimum, something is amiss. The deep connection a man and woman share is equally as important as their beliefs and values. Sometimes a busy life with work and kids can stop you from fulfilling nightly or even weekly encounters. If you notice this happening, you must make an effort to reconnect. If you neglect one another for too long, chances are things will fall apart. This is one area I need work on in my life. Right now we don't spend any alone time together and in just a few weeks we will be welcoming another baby. We try and at least grab some time together once a week, but lately it has been hard. The toll it takes on the relationship is brutal and I have had to fight hard to get some of those feelings of intimacy back.
You literally can't stand one another
This happens quite a lot in relationships. One partner will get sick of the other and have a hard time dealing with anything they say or do. In most cases the feelings will subside and are a temporary side effect of being around someone 24/7. If the irritability lasts longer than normal, it is a sign that you may have fallen out of love with your boyfriend. Consider what is causing you to feel annoyed with him and what you can do to counteract the feelings. What is causing all this angst? Right now this is something I am dealing with. It seems that no matter what my guy says or does, it makes me angry.
You spend the majority of your time apart
If you are spending a lot of time alone or away from your partner, this may be a sign of trouble. It is good to have some "me time" but too much can be overwhelming for your partner. Make sure you are doing an equal share between going out with friends and hanging with your man. This was one problem I was able to easily correct in my relationship. We used to spend time in opposite rooms doing different things. You could find me on the computer working or chatting on Facebook, and he was hooked to his Xbox in the bedroom. Now we make it a point to watch television together and hang out at least three nights a week. This helped us reconnect on a friend level that was missing.
When you realize the romantic feelings are gone, it can be hard to accept. You may have missed the warning signs, but you can try to fix the problem before calling it quits. I have been through some pretty rough patches in my relationship and after trying to rectify things, everything improved. It is up to you whether or not you believe the partnership is worth fighting for, or if giving up is truly what needs to happen.
