The mystery behind love-hate relationships

People who see their relationships as either all good or all bad tend to have low self-esteem, according to a series of seven studies by Yale researchers published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
In two of the studies participants were asked to indicate as quickly as possible whether each of 10 adjectives applied to their relationship partner, adjectives such as caring and warm or greedy and dishonest. Partners in this study included college roommates and mothers.
Individuals low in self-esteem were considerably slower to respond when negative and positive adjectives were alternated than when similar adjectives appeared in blocks. Those high in self-esteem were equally quick to respond to the adjectives no matter how they were presented.

I Lovingly Hate You!

Love-Hate Relationship

A love–hate relationship is an interpersonal relationship involving simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and hate. This relationship does not have to be of a romantic nature, and may be instead of a sibling one. It may occur when people have completely lost the intimacy within a loving relationship, yet still retain some passion for, or perhaps some commitment to, each other.
The term love–hate relationship has been used in several books on writing as an example of the use of the en dash.
The term is used frequently in psychology, popular writing and journalism. It can be applied to relationships with inanimate objects, or even concepts. It is sometimes employed by writers to refer to relationships between celebrity couples who have been divorced, then who reunite (notably Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, or Eminem and Kimberly Scott).
A related theme is "obligatory friendship", where one party usually feels indebted to another and forges a friendship but still holds a grudge over a particular past disappointment or set of disappointments, while the "creditor" in the relationship agrees to the nature of the relationship often for security reasons, but remains aware of the "debtor's" grudge and feels counter-indebted until the cause of the grudge is sufficiently overcome.
The concept is frequently used in teen romance novels where two characters are shown to hate each other but show some sort of affection or attraction towards each other at certain points of the story. The concept of a love-hate relationship is frequently used in teen novels to describe the romance between a good girl and a bad boy.
Research from Yale University suggests love–hate relationships may be the result of poor self-esteem.

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BREAK NA TAYO !!

Gaano ba kadali sabihin ang salitang break na tayo? O gaano ba ito kahirap? Sa mga salitang iyan, marami ang natutuwa, pero madalas, marami ang nasasaktan. Marami ding nababago, iyong iba, nagiging gago. Pinagpaplanuhan ba ito? O sadya na lang lalabas sa bibig mo? Tulad ng I love you, may pinipili ba itong pagkakataon? O sa kahit na anong senaryo, pwede mo na itong banggitin? Kung kadalasan nakakasakit lang pala ito, bakit pa kaya ito nauso? Minsan ba naisip mong pumasok sa isang relasyon kasi alam mong kapag ayaw mo na, pwede naman makipag-break? Bakit ba kailangan sabihin ang break na tayo!?

How to Keep a Spark in a Long Term Relationship

By: Demetrius Sewell

In the early stages of a romantic relationship, couples literally can’t keep their hands off of each other. They call each other all the time or constantly want to be together. As the relationship, however, grows into something long-term, some couples trade in the excitement of a new relationship for security, thus allowing the heat of the sparks to become fleeting and lukewarm. Sparks can infer different things for different couples such as physical attraction, lust or closeness. Regardless of the type of sparks that occurred in your long-term relationship, you can keep the heat and passion alive.

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How I fell in love with HIM

I didn’t plan on falling in love with you, and I doubt if you planned on falling in love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. We fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created. For me, love like that has happened only once and that’s why every minute we spent together has been seared in my memory. I’ll never forget a single moment of it.

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