Guys and Respect

So, I was talkin’ to one of my best guy friends n’ he was askin’ me for advice with his relationship. He told me how much pressure he feels sometimes about not screwing up so he doesn’t look like a jerk and all he really wants is to keep his girlfriend happy but no matter what he does or how hard he tries, she always gets upset with him for even the littlest things. So all his hard work basically goes to waste.

That just made me feel even worse about being a girl. Now, most guys think girls hate them just because they’re guys and there’s this horrible rep set up for them, like all guys are made to hurt girls. But I think guys get less credit n’ respect than they deserve. A lot of girls don’t see what they’re doing to their boyfriend. They think that just because he’s a guy, he’s automatically the one to blame. Now I think that shit’s unfair. Okay, yeah I’m guilty for once hating on guys and saying disrespectful things about them too. But I’ve realized that while girls are over here gettin’ all this sympathy for being heart broken, guys have it so much worse. They have to put up this big front, pretending they’re strong and nothing (fazes) them because that’s what guys are supposed to do. But girls, they got it easy. They can complain, they can bitch, they can cry. Cos’ that’s what girls are supposed to do.

But you know, not all guys are out there to hurt girls. Sometimes it’s the girl’s fault, she sets herself up. But the guy takes the blame for it because he’s the guy, in the eye of the public: he’s automatically the bad guy. Girls, you gotta cut guys some slack. Don’t get so butthurt over the little mistakes or the choices he makes like not knowing that “in 12 days” is your monthly anniversary or maybe wanting to hang out with his guy friends once in a while, or act tough infront of his crew instead of being lovey dovey with you like always, or playing COD instead of watching Mean Girls with you on a Sunday Morning. If you don’t wanna be let down, don’t expect so much from him. You’re lucky to have him. He’s there to protect you n’ support you. Guys can’t read minds and they don’t know everything, so don’t get mad when he orders take-out instead of cooking a 5 star meal for you two. Sometimes they need a heads up, they need help, insight, hints! And they try so hard, just for you. All a guy wants to do is keep his number one girl happy, at all times. You don’t think it hurts them when they know they made us cry ? Of course it does. N’ yeah, okay. Some guys are straight up jerks but it works like that for girls too you know, some girls are straight up bitches but it doesn’t classify the whole gender,remember that.

A relationship takes two people, two insights, and two minds trying to understand each other, it’s not all about you, respect that.

Source: thediamondkidd

How I Know I Love You...

AUG. 21, 2012  By MILA JARONIEC

I know I love you because I want to get you soup when you’re sick. Not only do I want to get it for you, I want to make it for you so you can eat something made with love instead of with crushed insects and preservatives. I know I love you because I want to slap anyone who hurts you, even if it’s your boss. I want to hold you when you’re having a nightmare and kiss the spot that hurts when you bump into something. I know I love you because I want you to be healthy even when you’re not sick, and that’s why I keep bugging you to change your crappy eating ways even though I know you’re over hearing about it.

Why people get into an 'open relationship'

An open relationship is one in which both people agree to get involved in a physical (or emotional) relationship with other people without the act being considered to be infidelity. This is the textbook definition of an open relationship. Of course, it depends on the couple involved.

While an open relationship is not the choice of many, some people have given it a shot. Below are the top reasons they give for  being in an open relationship.

1. It promises variety. The biggest benefit is that there will be variety in your life. While you will always have someone to go back home to, you will have the option of going to someone else if you so wish. This variety is good as it prevents boredom and adds a fair amount of spice to life.

How to Restore a Broken Relationship

One of the hardest things to go through in life is the breaking of a relationship with someone, especially if you were particularly close to that person and have known them for a long time. Once a relationship ends it can be very difficult to restore that relationship. The more intimate you are with someone, the deeper the pain goes when things go wrong. In this article we will discuss how to repair a relationship that has been broken. We will deal with relationships in general. In another article I will discuss how to repair a broken marriage. The good news is that relationships can be restored if everyone involved is willing to put the effort into the process of healing. It may take time, but the end result is worth the time and effort.

Obstacles to Healing

Before we can discuss the process of repairing a relationship, we need to consider what keeps restoration from happening in the first place.

The mystery behind love-hate relationships

People who see their relationships as either all good or all bad tend to have low self-esteem, according to a series of seven studies by Yale researchers published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
In two of the studies participants were asked to indicate as quickly as possible whether each of 10 adjectives applied to their relationship partner, adjectives such as caring and warm or greedy and dishonest. Partners in this study included college roommates and mothers.
Individuals low in self-esteem were considerably slower to respond when negative and positive adjectives were alternated than when similar adjectives appeared in blocks. Those high in self-esteem were equally quick to respond to the adjectives no matter how they were presented.

Love-Hate Relationship

A love–hate relationship is an interpersonal relationship involving simultaneous or alternating emotions of love and hate. This relationship does not have to be of a romantic nature, and may be instead of a sibling one. It may occur when people have completely lost the intimacy within a loving relationship, yet still retain some passion for, or perhaps some commitment to, each other.
The term love–hate relationship has been used in several books on writing as an example of the use of the en dash.
The term is used frequently in psychology, popular writing and journalism. It can be applied to relationships with inanimate objects, or even concepts. It is sometimes employed by writers to refer to relationships between celebrity couples who have been divorced, then who reunite (notably Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton, or Eminem and Kimberly Scott).
A related theme is "obligatory friendship", where one party usually feels indebted to another and forges a friendship but still holds a grudge over a particular past disappointment or set of disappointments, while the "creditor" in the relationship agrees to the nature of the relationship often for security reasons, but remains aware of the "debtor's" grudge and feels counter-indebted until the cause of the grudge is sufficiently overcome.
The concept is frequently used in teen romance novels where two characters are shown to hate each other but show some sort of affection or attraction towards each other at certain points of the story. The concept of a love-hate relationship is frequently used in teen novels to describe the romance between a good girl and a bad boy.
Research from Yale University suggests love–hate relationships may be the result of poor self-esteem.

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BREAK NA TAYO !!

Gaano ba kadali sabihin ang salitang break na tayo? O gaano ba ito kahirap? Sa mga salitang iyan, marami ang natutuwa, pero madalas, marami ang nasasaktan. Marami ding nababago, iyong iba, nagiging gago. Pinagpaplanuhan ba ito? O sadya na lang lalabas sa bibig mo? Tulad ng I love you, may pinipili ba itong pagkakataon? O sa kahit na anong senaryo, pwede mo na itong banggitin? Kung kadalasan nakakasakit lang pala ito, bakit pa kaya ito nauso? Minsan ba naisip mong pumasok sa isang relasyon kasi alam mong kapag ayaw mo na, pwede naman makipag-break? Bakit ba kailangan sabihin ang break na tayo!?

How to Keep a Spark in a Long Term Relationship

By: Demetrius Sewell

In the early stages of a romantic relationship, couples literally can’t keep their hands off of each other. They call each other all the time or constantly want to be together. As the relationship, however, grows into something long-term, some couples trade in the excitement of a new relationship for security, thus allowing the heat of the sparks to become fleeting and lukewarm. Sparks can infer different things for different couples such as physical attraction, lust or closeness. Regardless of the type of sparks that occurred in your long-term relationship, you can keep the heat and passion alive.